If you suffer terrifying defeats, a persistent situation you can’t change, or a devastating event you couldn’t take hold of, then you may have lost hope of changing your life or halting painful circumstances. A persistent mood disorder can sometimes lead to emotions of hopelessness.
For those around you, apathy or hopelessness may be puzzling. Why don’t you seek a job, make friends, eat healthier, or leave an abusive person? You realize any effort to fix your life as pointless when you don’t have any hope. You may be responsible for yourself. You could say you can’t manage your life, you can’t make friends, and you can’t get a job. You acknowledge anything that occurs outside of your control. You might start to dishearten.
Thankfully, there is always a way out. There are plenty of ways to find hope and faith in any situation or even in times when you feel like you are lost. Consider the following steps that will help you out of this lost state and remind you of the power to create a life you love:
- Realize that it’s fine to not know what you want to do with your life. This holds especially true when you are in your early 20’s and are trying to figure out who you want to be and what you want to do in your late 20’s or 30’s. Goals are great, but don’t let the unperceived make you think you’re not on the way. You are. For example when you graduated from university, you might have no clue what you wanted to do with your life. You start to realize what you don’t want to do with your life, job after job, experience after experience.
- Be satisfied with trying new things. Be okay with failing. Failure is learning, learning is succeeding. Some people were so scared of messing up when they were younger that they didn’t move. They have been frozen in fear, stagnating in achievement. To be successful— which you call happy and fulfilled— you’ll have to get used to trial and mistake, particularly if you’re not precisely sure what you want to do with your life.
- Ask smart questions. Great questions give rise to excellent responses. Ask questions about how your life is now and what needs to be done to improve it. Your responses will direct you towards a better future. Ask others what they believe you’re great at. Ask individuals who live the kind of lives that you want to live as they have where they are. Not only will a wonderful life fall into your lap. You have to look for it. Ask and you’re going to receive.
- Read books. A great book can change your whole life. Books can encourage you, spread your mind, and open your eyes to the possibilities. Great books often contain the author’s understanding for years or decades. If you’re looking for a certain route, there’s a book from someone who’s already accomplished it. Learn from their errors, read their tale, and steal their understanding.
- Find some form of spirituality. You can find it in God, but you may also find it in some form of higher meaning. Perhaps it’s a profound feeling of gratitude. Perhaps it’s the nature and the universe’s mysterious energy. It enables you discover significance outside of yourself somewhere. Using meditation helps you become spiritually more linked. Find a way to generate a greater feeling of belonging.
- Direct all your energy in your strengths and talents. Go away from getting good at things you’re not good at. Scholastically, we’re taught that being well rounded is better. So we become a jack of all trades but a master of none instead of achieving our complete potential in one aspect. Spending so much time trying to better at things you don’t like doing, tasks you aren’t naturally good at, jobs that weren’t well suited for you personally, will not do you well. So relearn a few stuff, and open your mind to what you think is good for you, not what others have told you to do your whole life.
- Most significantly, enjoy your life. Life isn’t all about having it found out, it’s all about finding it out. So, rather than waiting hopelessly for an unknown destination, appreciate the journey.